Why Space?

Why Space?

I’m fascinated with the idea of space lately. Not in a “Star Trek” kind of way; it’s a Why-do-I-feel-this-way? kind of way. I’ve been reading the Creation account in Genesis and focusing on how much space God created before He filled it. The sky. The Oceans. Land. He created them empty and then He filled them. And I think He does the same thing with us.

I left an event the other night and as I was walking to the train I suddenly felt profoundly lonely. It was like I crossed 5th Avenue directly into the Swamps of Sadness. So I tried to rally some of my hang-out regulars, but no one was available. So with no one else to talk to, I had to settle for talking with God. Which is annoying because He could fix this, He could fill this space with someone, but He hasn’t.

So I told Him how I felt and then we walked up and down the aisles of Rite Aid looking for something to sadness eat. And then I went home and watched part of “Cloudy With A Chance of Meatballs 2”. And life went on.

But don’t worry; this is not the part where I say how I realized that God wants to be the one to fill all the empty spaces in my life. And that He’s all that I need, Hallelujah.  Because I don’t think that’s true. Not in the way we typically “encourage” single people to believe. How often have we heard “God wants you to be fully satisfied in Him first and then…” or some variation of that? As if God is the insecure If-I-can’t-have-you-no-one-else-can type. But He’s not.

In Genesis 2:18, before the fall, when all was literally right with the world and everything was good, God said it was NOT good for man to be alone. Even though man had Him. God knew there was space there. Because He put it there. He could have wired humanity to need nothing but Him, and then He and Adam could have had the best bromance ever for all of eternity. But He didn’t. He left space for relationship. And then He filled it – with someone else. So does He want to fill the space Himself? Yes. But not always WITH Himself. In the same way He didn’t create the sky to just sit in it Himself, there are spaces He’s left in our lives for things other than just Him.

So that emptiness we sometimes feel, that space where we’re like “God, I do love you, but I still feel like something’s missing.” That’s not a bad thing. It sucks, but I think it’s actually a good sign. God doesn’t make space to leave it empty. So if there’s space, it’s there to be filled. And He will fill it.

It’s not a question of if, it’s just a matter of how and when.

9 thoughts on “Why Space?

  • June 22, 2014 at 4:00 am

    I just wanted to say thank you, I’m 35 and it’s truly validating and comforting.
    I feel like no one gets it or no one notices. All of my friends are married with kids. I threw my best friend baby shower for her 4th baby yesterday, and it was beautiful and loved celebrating her. But alas I was the only single and non married person there. I felt really sad at the end of the night. I long for companionship and more to be a mum!
    I spent years being a youth leader leading an amazing small group of young girls for their high school years. Cherished it, sewed In so many years, mentoring young girls… And guess what they are all 25 now married with kids. I always feel like God skipped over me, and missed the desires of my heart. It aches some times.

    So that’s just a tiny piece of vulnerability and authenticity from me.
    But just thank you for understanding, for writing. It is already comforting me, to know I’m not alone and that I don’t have to take on Christian catch phrases and cliches or even just the silence of people who don’t even notice and he ones who take for granted what it’s like to not have to go home alone each day.
    Grateful for you!


    • June 26, 2014 at 11:41 pm

      Hi Danni 🙂 Thank you so much for jumping onboard this newborn blog — we’re so happy to have you! I DEFINITELY know where you’re coming from and wish I had easy answers for us, but I’ve got nothing. Except a (sometimes wicked) sense of humor and a huge desire to make sure we all know we’re not in this alone. I am grateful FOR YOU. xxx

  • June 25, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    Janice! You are CRUSHING IT! Encouraging! Reminding of God’s nature and His goodness, WOW! So glad you’re my sister, so glad you’re writing!

    • June 26, 2014 at 11:43 pm

      Thanks girl! Looks like this thing might actually be a good idea! 😉

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